"it is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations."

- khalil gibran


  1. My mother was at high school, at the age of around 17 she met a boy (Dante) and they dated. It wasn't long, possibly a month or 2 before she decided he wasn't for her but they would be friends.
    Life continued their friendship varied in frequency over the years and 8 years later my mother married my father (Brian)
    They were very much in love and had 2 children together, life continued.
    Dante married a lady and also had a child.
    Mum and Dante would catch up probably twice a year, talk about old times and escape the norm of their lives however there was still no romantic incline.
    Life continued.
    After being married for 24 years my mother and father separated (4 years ago)
    Since then my mother and Dante have been happily together and i have never seen my mother so in love.
    some romantic connections are instant, some grow over time, the important aspect is that we LOVE.

    (p.s. i see the love in this photo)

  2. it is only the human that needs time; but there is something that is instant: it is there or it is not.

    some people spend years together and never feel what others can within two months. this is what khalil is talking about.

    your life situation is not always conducive to the spiritual affinity, sometimes the human part of us is not ready to honor or explore it, but it is already there.

    dante and your mother have always loved each other, it just took over 30 years for the space to be created for it to flourish.

  3. your response to this is so...freeing...for me.

    yes. freeing. thank you.